Should christians have boyfriends and girlfriends? : The boyfriend/girlfriend snare exposed   Leave a comment

This may come as a big shock to many of you reading this, but God does not give boyfriends and girlfriends, He giveshusbands and wives! Scripture does not support today’s modern idea of “going together.” In Biblical times, when a young man and woman desired an exclusive relationship with each other, they were betrothed or engaged. This was the only commitment that was recognized. So where did the idea of “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” come from? Glad you asked!
The entire concept of boyfriends and girlfriends evolved from worldly philosophies. Why? Because most non-Christians (and some so called Christians) think the idea of waiting until marriage to engage in sexual relations is utterly ridiculous. Therefore, to appease their sense of entitlement, couples come up with a pseudo commitment in an effort to stop their boyfriend/girlfriend from sleeping around with other people. By the way, if you happen to see any of the current talk shows, you will see all of their efforts are in vain. Unfortunately, this confusion about courtship has crept into the church and too many Christians have allowed their minds to be conformed to the world’s standards. The word of God clearly warns in Romans 12:2, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” But what’s wrong with having a boyfriend or a girlfriend? What harm could that possibly do? You’re asking all of the right questions!
Contrary to the flow of popular culture, making a commitment to “date” one person exclusively prior to engagement puts undo pressure on a relationship. The scriptures tell us in 2 Corinthians 3:17 “where the spirit of the Lord is their is liberty!” Love must always be by choice, not forced. This is why God gave Adam and Eve the option to obey or not to obey. Think about it, would you want someone to love you because they had no other choice? One of the most beautiful experiences of true love, is to be chosen. If two people really want to be together, they will make the time to do so. Premature or wrong commitments only lead to obligation, which ultimately leads to frustration. Certainly not the recipe for a healthy relationship. A former Detroit Anchorwoman, shared how her life was turned upside down in a relationship with a “boyfriend.”
It is very difficult for the Holy Spirit to guide two hearts into His perfect plan with the pressure of “who’s that girl texting you?” and “why were you smiling at that guy?” A relationship free from the restrictions that “claiming” someone as your own can bring, has room to truly develop. Yes, this may be challenging when you desire someone romantically. However, if two people are honoring God in their relationship by putting their flesh under His submission and remaining holy, He will bless them with the grace needed to accomplish His will!SOURCE:


Posted June 24, 2014 by GOCLAP in writeups

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